About This Episode

When we employ discipline tactics that counter our children’s motivation and passion, it can lead to frustration and exhaustion. When asking our children to do something, there are three questions to answer.

  1. Can my child do the task that is required of them?
  2. Does my child want to do this task and why?
  3. What does your child have to do to succeed in this task?

Think of these questions like a hamburger. Top bun … meat … and bottom bun.

Featuring

  • Marvin del Rios Guest Speaker

  • Alicia La Hoz, Psy.D. Founder & CEO

  • Omar Ramos Host

  • Veronica Avila Co-Host

Additional Info

RECAP

When you’d like your children/adolescents to learn a new habit or skill and they resist it is usually because they don’t know how or are not developmentally able to, don’t have any desire to do so, or get distracted or overwhelmed.  When they resist, ask yourself three questions.  You can remember the questions by thinking about it as a hamburger.

Top bun: Can my child do the task required of him?

Meat: Does my child want to do this task? Why or why not?

Bottom bun: What does my child have to do in order to succeed in this task?

THIS WEEK'S ACTION

Think of a new positive habit you would like your child to learn. For example, eat more vegetables, make their bed every day, say "please" and "thank you" with every request, or any other skill you would like them to develop.

Over the next few days, use the Hamburger Method to practice this habit with your child. We'll check in with you on Friday to see how it's going.

TOOLS

The following tools can help you along the way.

Developmental Milestones

 

The Struggle is Real podcast is based off the book, The Struggle is Real: Parenting in the 21st Century written by Dr. Alicia La Hoz & Dr. Paul Meier. 

 

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