The Struggle is Real: Modern Parenting

Identifying abuse: The warning signs

About This Episode

Domestic violence can be seen everywhere. It doesn’t discriminate against race, gender, religion or economic status. It entails more than just physical violence and includes any type of psychological, emotional, or spiritual maltreatment based on the abuser’s desire to exercise power and control over his or her victim.  For this reason, it is important to talk to your children about domestic abuse and healthy relationships.

Featuring

  • Robyn Cenizal Principal at ICF

  • Alicia La Hoz, Psy.D. Founder & CEO

  • Omar Ramos Host

  • Veronica Avila Co-Host

Additional Info

RECAP

Domestic violence crosses all differences in socioeconomic status and race to impact large swaths of the population.  It entails more than just physical violence and includes any type of psychological, emotional, or spiritual maltreatment based on the abuser’s desire to exercise power and control over his or her victim.  For this reason, it is important to talk to your children about domestic abuse and take other measures to protect them from potential abusers.  Abusers tend to prey on people with low self-confidence who are easy to manipulate. Look for behaviors that demonstrate a desire to control, isolate, or shame a partner as signals that abuse is taking place.  Finally, demonstrate respectful and loving treatment in your own relationships, including that which you have with your children and partner.  If a child is subjected to verbal put downs, threats, and physical violence by his or her parents, that child will not be able to recognize when abuse is occurring in a romantic relationship.

CONVERSATION

What makes people susceptible to abuse? How can we help prevent our children from becoming victims?

THIS WEEK'S ACTION

  • Use the tools below to familiarize yourself and your children with the signs of abusive relationships.
  • Have conversations throughout your child’s development about how to have loving and healthy relationships.
  • Trust your feelings and teach your children to do the same. Make sure you both know that it is not okay for a relationship to feel oppressive. If it does, it’s time to run away and get help.

TOOLS

The following tools can help you along the way.

Power & Control Wheel

Is This Abuse?

The Struggle is Real podcast is based off the book, The Struggle is Real: Parenting in the 21st Century written by Dr. Alicia La Hoz & Dr. Paul Meier. 

 

More Episodes

Identifying abuse: The warning signs

Domestic violence can be seen everywhere. It doesn’t discriminate against race, gender, religion or economic status. It entails more than just physical violence and includes...

Listen to Episode

Unpacking the unmentionables: Talking to your kids about drugs, sex & porn

Talking to your kids about drugs, sex and porn can be tough - but it's necessary. Tune in to get tips on how to start...

Listen to Episode

Is it true love?

The chemical changes that take place during periods of infatuation can cloud judgement and blur the lines between true commitment and attraction. In a truly...

Listen to Episode

Guard your child's heart

Boundaries are important in relationships and in life. Setting boundaries for your children helps guard their heart and helps keep them safe. Tune in to...

Listen to Episode