The Struggle is Real: Modern Parenting

Unpacking the unmentionables: Talking to your kids about drugs, sex & porn

About This Episode

Talking to your kids about drugs, sex and porn can be tough - but it's necessary. Tune in to get tips on how to start and have the conversation.


  • Richard Albertson Founding President of Live the Life

  • Alicia La Hoz, Psy.D. Founder & CEO

  • Omar Ramos Host

  • Veronica Avila Co-Host

Additional Info


Talking to your children about difficult subjects like sex, pornography, or drugs can be awkward, but it is necessary nonetheless.  Don’t think of these discussions as a once in a lifetime “talk” that you avoid until it’s impossible to continue doing so.  Instead, make these discussions regular occurrences that move sequentially throughout your child’s development, deepening their understanding as they mature.  Paint a beautiful portrait of the type of life you want your children to live in addition to presenting the negative consequences of addiction and sexual indiscretion.  Finally, remember that the best defense against the development of harmful behaviors is a strong familial bond. Create a loving, wholesome environment for your children so that they don’t feel the pull to find fulfillment elsewhere.


How did your parents talk to you about “the unmentionables”? What can you learn from that experience?


  • If you haven’t already, try opening up a dialogue with your children about the “unmentionables.” Make it age appropriate and start small with things like dating and physical affection.
  • To minimize the awkwardness of talking to your children about sex, try talking to your spouse about it first and practicing what you are going to say.
  • Continue having conversations as the occasion dictates. Remember not to have a single, isolated “talk” but rather an ongoing conversation with your child that flows naturally from his or her developmental progress.


The following tools can help you along the way.

National Institute on Drug Abuse: Family Check Up

The Struggle is Real podcast is based off the book, The Struggle is Real: Parenting in the 21st Century written by Dr. Alicia La Hoz & Dr. Paul Meier. 


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