I’m sure that by now, you’ve heard Taylor Swift’s new single, “Blank Space”. In the lyrics, she sings, “I got a long list of ex-lovers…But I got a blank space baby, And I’ll write your name.” We all know Taylor Swift is a serial dater and that’s on her, but my question is, why does the blank space always have to have someone’s name in it? STOP. Just stop looking for love in all the wrong places, with being obsessed with finding your life mate or having the constant need to have someone at your side because you can’t stand to be alone. Being single is not the same thing as waiting to be married. It’s not about dating until you find someone; rather it’s about living life and doing the things that you’re passionate about. It’s about embracing life and enjoying the journey. It’s about being comfortable and happy enough with yourself that you can put the pen down and not worry about whose name you’re going to write in the blank space. Don’t get sucked into the myths that marriage (or being in a relationship) completes you or that you’re not an adult until you’re in a serious, committed relationship. I wrote a blog not too long ago about marriage notcompleting you, but rather complimenting you. Again, I’m not against marriage. I’m actually totally for it. (You can read all about that right here.) And anyway, if you’ve looked for love over and over again and you haven’t found it, what makes you think you’re going to find it the 20th time around? Try something new. Let it come to you instead. Redirect your energy into trying new things, strengthening relationships with friends and family, working on something you’re passionate about, growing as a person, changing the world. And who knows, maybe in the process you will come across someone who enjoys living life as much as you do.